I learned early on in my life that if you are lucky enough to make a true friend then you do everything within your power to hang on to that friend. You maintain an open and honest relationship with that person that you were lucky enough to find. You treat them with respect.
I know its hard to tell at first if the person is a true friend or a fly by night sort of person. Give it about a month and you will know. Its damn near impossible to hide your true self for an entire month unless you only see them occasionally. Those that pass the test of friendship are rare and special. So it is in your best interest to treat them like you want them to treat you...that sounds fair enough...right?
Then there is family. UGH! You don't get to choose them, they're just presented to you by birth, whether it be your own birth to a mother and father or the birth of a sibling. To be born into dysfunction is the normal occurrence in todays society. And by today I mean within the last 40 years. Somehow the family unit has fallen apart. My opinion on that subject would be the massive amounts of drugs that went into the systems of the children of the 60's. Then those idiots somehow thought that to spank a child or make them behave or teach them manners would somehow ruin their psyche in some irreparable way. But this is another story altogether!!! OR maybe this is the reason so many people BURN BRIDGES! Back to Burning Bridges.
Now I have told you what I personally believe about finding a true friend and keeping them. Now I will tell you what I have seen others do. They meet people, not with the idea that this could be a true friend but with the sick idea of "how can I use this person to benefit myself". They think these people have something they want or need. And I believe these types of people far outweigh people like me. And if these kinds of people are your family then you're stuck with an asshole until you can get away from them for good. If its your sibling then you have to wait till one of you leaves the house and gets away from them. And hopefully one of these people won't be your own child because to walk away and turn your back on your child is a devastating act that kills part of your soul. Every single day you think about it and it kills you off a tiny piece at a time. A slow crippling death! These are the people who burn bridges. Its not a quick process but slow like I said. I picture these people standing in the middle of their bridge, each side a small fire at first and then as they use up each person in their life the fire gets bigger and bigger until they are all alone standing in the middle of that bridge.
Some of these people don't care at all that the fire thats burning at the ends of their bridges were fueled with the bodies of the people they hurt. But then you have the people who are just plain stupid and don't know whats happening. Always wondering why someone doesn't want to talk to them or be around them anymore. Those are the ones who live in their tiny bubbles and never see anyone for who they really are. Those are the ones that are more dangerous then the ones who don't give a shit that they hurt you in the first place. Those are the ones that somehow make up in their own stupid heads what your life is like and then when you tell them different...they say you exaggerate or make things up. They don't see what you live because they can't see past their own noses anyway. They pass judgment based on their twisted perception of your life. They can't see the forest for the trees. Making them eliminate themselves from your list of possible candidates for the coveted role of true friend.
So...from my analogy of burning bridges...there are two ways to do the actual burning. One---use people until they have nothing left to give and Two---be too stupid to see the person for who they are. I am sure there are plenty more ways to burn bridges but I think these two are plenty. The final outcome is basically the same. Your feelings get hurt and you get wounded. Scars form and your skin gets a little thicker. An invisible barrier set in place so the next asshole doesn't do so much damage
I know its hard to tell at first if the person is a true friend or a fly by night sort of person. Give it about a month and you will know. Its damn near impossible to hide your true self for an entire month unless you only see them occasionally. Those that pass the test of friendship are rare and special. So it is in your best interest to treat them like you want them to treat you...that sounds fair enough...right?
Then there is family. UGH! You don't get to choose them, they're just presented to you by birth, whether it be your own birth to a mother and father or the birth of a sibling. To be born into dysfunction is the normal occurrence in todays society. And by today I mean within the last 40 years. Somehow the family unit has fallen apart. My opinion on that subject would be the massive amounts of drugs that went into the systems of the children of the 60's. Then those idiots somehow thought that to spank a child or make them behave or teach them manners would somehow ruin their psyche in some irreparable way. But this is another story altogether!!! OR maybe this is the reason so many people BURN BRIDGES! Back to Burning Bridges.
Now I have told you what I personally believe about finding a true friend and keeping them. Now I will tell you what I have seen others do. They meet people, not with the idea that this could be a true friend but with the sick idea of "how can I use this person to benefit myself". They think these people have something they want or need. And I believe these types of people far outweigh people like me. And if these kinds of people are your family then you're stuck with an asshole until you can get away from them for good. If its your sibling then you have to wait till one of you leaves the house and gets away from them. And hopefully one of these people won't be your own child because to walk away and turn your back on your child is a devastating act that kills part of your soul. Every single day you think about it and it kills you off a tiny piece at a time. A slow crippling death! These are the people who burn bridges. Its not a quick process but slow like I said. I picture these people standing in the middle of their bridge, each side a small fire at first and then as they use up each person in their life the fire gets bigger and bigger until they are all alone standing in the middle of that bridge.
Some of these people don't care at all that the fire thats burning at the ends of their bridges were fueled with the bodies of the people they hurt. But then you have the people who are just plain stupid and don't know whats happening. Always wondering why someone doesn't want to talk to them or be around them anymore. Those are the ones who live in their tiny bubbles and never see anyone for who they really are. Those are the ones that are more dangerous then the ones who don't give a shit that they hurt you in the first place. Those are the ones that somehow make up in their own stupid heads what your life is like and then when you tell them different...they say you exaggerate or make things up. They don't see what you live because they can't see past their own noses anyway. They pass judgment based on their twisted perception of your life. They can't see the forest for the trees. Making them eliminate themselves from your list of possible candidates for the coveted role of true friend.
So...from my analogy of burning bridges...there are two ways to do the actual burning. One---use people until they have nothing left to give and Two---be too stupid to see the person for who they are. I am sure there are plenty more ways to burn bridges but I think these two are plenty. The final outcome is basically the same. Your feelings get hurt and you get wounded. Scars form and your skin gets a little thicker. An invisible barrier set in place so the next asshole doesn't do so much damage
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